HYPOCRITE !!
Because of many feedbacks I got from many people
after reading my ‘many’ post, I think I should write more!! haha! I don’t know
whether I wrote controversial issues, as some might view it or I wrote something
that is very true, that happens in our everyday lives, but which many refuse to
accept as the fact that is happening as we grow older.
Disclaimer: Again this is my personal view over things which
happen around me. Some might not agree, might’ve, but my intention is just to
highlight the issues surrounding us.
HYPOCRITE = Someone who pretends to have certain beliefs or opinions that they do not
really have. (In Malay, it is ‘bermuka-muka’) - Two Face, Backstabber !!
We’ve always used this word in our lives, sometimes
accusing others to be a hypocrite and sometimes we are hypocrite, without realizing
it. Well, I know in Islam ‘Fitnah’ itu lebih teruk drpd membunuh’, but how many
people actually did not say things behind other’s back? Well, I tried my best
to recall a few people, but none actually, haven’t said something behind somebody’s
back.
So the truth is, everybody says something behind
everybody’s back, regardless of whether they meant any harm or not. My point is
what is the point of accusing others to be a hypocrite when we do the same
thing? Don’t make a big fuss about others being hypocrite/talking behind
others’ back because in the end, it all points out to you, to the real you.
Though shocking it may be, sometimes it is the
crowd that makes us to be a hypocrite or ‘org yg suka mengata org lain’.
I thought this will only happened in high school, when we are still developing
our senses, but it is sad to say that we are still influenced by our peers, the
crowd around us. That is how the world works. The question is, are you still
influenced by your peers to be a hypocrite? Or does we live the life that our
peers expect we to live?
It is a loss to see a ‘supposedly mature’ young
man/woman who still lives in their peer’s/friends’ shadows. Well, I am not
critical towards the idea of having many friends, but..how many friends
actually listen and cry with you when you are in deep trouble compares to the friends
who will only be with you to share your laughter and when you are free of troubles and
pockets full of money? again..that is how the world works. Again, how many friends
will stand by you when you are in the wrong path, advising you to get back on track? The
answer is.. not many. Coz in the end, your friends will have their own family,
their own problems to think, their own life to lead.
Back to the issue of ‘hypocrite’. Well, i don’t
blame others for talking behind others’ back, nor I blame people who are
hypocrite n opportunist. Those qualities are possessed by everybody, whether you
are aware or not. But the only thing that disturbs me so much is, how people can
act innocent after they bitch about other people? Well, maybe after that you can
make up and be friends again. Yes, we should be forgiving. But to make others to
look bad, as if they were the only ones who bitch about others is unacceptable.
Am I confusing you?
My whole point is that, I believe that people have
some good and bad qualities within themselves. You have to be brave to admit your bad qualities, but
to hide it, act innocent & blame it on others is wrong. But, who am I to
say it is wrong? Don’t accuse others of being hypocrite / bermuka-muka when you are
also a hypocrite. Even if when you are unsatisfied with others, don’t
incite/influenced other people to dislike that person. You can complain, but your
complaints might influence others to dislike other people. So even if after that
you are in good terms with that person. What about other people who heard your complaint?
Isn’t it much better if you keep reminding yourself that everybody has good n
bad qualities? Just tolerate wit his/her bad qualities as there are the good
sides of him/her.
I’ve seen and heard many things around me, and I’ve
come to a simple conclusion.
1. Take responsibility of what you’ve said and
done. You might said unwanted things when you are not in your senses, be brave &
don’t act innocent as if nothing happens and put the burden on someone else. (If
this cannot be done, then you shouldn’t bitch at all bouts others even if
he/she did something wrong!)
2. Be your own self. Though i do agree it is
difficult not to be influenced by your friends, you should have your own beliefs.
What’s the point of studying in university but still possessing the ‘clinging’
type of personality?
3. If you help others, don’t hope for a reward or you’ll
be very disappointed. But we are just humans, of course we want to help others,
with a hint of hope that they’ll be there when we need them. Learn to help
& hope the rewards come from ALLAH SWT. If not, politely decline that you
cannot help. (Unless the person is in deep trouble, c’mon for the sake of humanity,
give him a hand, Allah will pay u)
I’m not perfect either. I do admit I’m loud, sometimes
selfish and difficult, I do complaint too! But, I’ve found those who possess my
qualities, those who will hear my complaints but uninfluenced by it. Those who
hold the view that ignorance is a bliss! These people have aspired me to be a
better person, with strong personalities. I’m learning and very fortunate that I’ve
people around me to light up my once dark path. It is always true that setiap
kejadian ada hikmahnya.
I was abandoned (or maybe I keep off my distance),
but I’ve found greater opportunities to become a better person with the help of
ALLAH SWT. For me I think, the trick is simple, do what ever you think is right with
good intentions, ignore those who have wronged you and learn to forgive..Then you’ll
have a smooth path!
" To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved "
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Thanks guys !!
When i open my friendster, i thought hey, changes from Friendster. And i think i kinda "like" it. But the moment i open my inbox field….ay carramba!!
Tons of wishes / messages on my birthday!!! I’m shaking, trembling, happy, shocked, any other emotional reaction that states my suprised towards it. Thanks guys!!!
i dunno what else to say but a great big hug and thank you.
Uncategorized | Comment (1)Nosy me…
Let’s agree on this…
We know what’s coming…
We know the challenges…
Now, we’re involved in something BIG: The shift to an entirely new economy…new era…new age, a vastly different approach in the way organizations should operate.
Work right now is going global…jobs are going virtual. Business is being conducted in ways that were simply impossible a few short years ago. The economy is shifting more and more toward services, and toward knowledge work. Before long, top management absolutely won’t be able to run things the old way, even if it desperately wants to.
New technologies especially computers and telecommunications have already created intense, worldwide competitions for business. Soon competition for our very own job could come from practically anywhere on earth.
Careers have already quit working like they used to. That’s not really anybody’s fault. But employees like us and organizations are very much at fault if we too don’t change in order to adapt.
It does us no good whatsoever to complain or be bitter bout what‘s happening. In fact, such behavior can only do us harm. We waste precious energy if we resist, get angry, or give in to grief over all that’s being lost. We jeopardize our future if we cling to old assumptions and expectations about how careers should operate.
Frankly, the world doesn’t care about our opinions or our feelings! Trust me..The world rewards only for those who catch on to what’s happening, who invest our energy in finding and seizing opportunities brought about by change.
And change always comes bearing gifts. “From bad to good human being“
Considering the scope and speed of change these days, there will be precious gift –many priceless opportunities for those of us who play by the new rules, positions ourselves right and take personal responsibility for our future.
Face the challenge…!!!
Prove we worth to them, make a difference, and add enough value so everyone can see that something very important would be missing if we left. Loyalty and true devotion over the years ?? – I said “Nah..hell yeah”…seriously.. it useless
Bottom line is let the solutions start with us, assume we ownership of all the problems we might or not be created rather than trying to single out somebody to blame..
Last but not least live life to the fullest…
Rezeki is all from Allah SWT so do believe in that.
* Scared if one day, I becoming obsolete in a fast-changing world… 