oouucchh..that hurts!
Saje je letak title mcm tuh kasik nampak poyo .. hehehe
I did not write this.. Worth your time, so please read.
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question……
"What kind of man are you looking for?"
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking.
"Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."
She began to expound… As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man
what he can do for me that I can’t do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my
household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought and stated, " I am not referring to money. I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her toe explain.
She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked… believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, "You’re asking a lot."
She replied, " I’m worth a lot."
We wish we could turn back time .. I’m out PEACE
Uncategorized | Comments (3)Hope
"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies." in a letter from Andy Dufresne (Tim Robbins) to Ellis Boyd "Red" Redding (Morgan Freeman) in The Shawshank Redemption (1994).
Check out this conversation between Frank Towns (Dennis Quaid) and Liddle (Scott Michael Campbell) in Flight of the Phoenix (2004). if you haven’t seen this movie, basically it’s about a bunch of half-naked guys who got stuck in the middle of Mongolian desert, trying to survive and hoping to make it out alive by building a plane.
Frank Towns: Why give people false hope?
Liddle: Come on man.Most folks spend their whole lives holding on to hopes and dreams that are never going to come true but they hold on to them. Why are you going to give up on them now when you need them most?
Frank Towns: You are assuming I’m one of those people who has hopes and dreams.
Liddle: I find it hard to believe that a man who learns to fly never had a dream.
Frank Towns: Look, how can I let those people build that plane when I don’t believe it will work? And, every day they waste trying to build it brings them one day closer to dying.
Liddle: I think a man only needs one thing in life. He just needs someone to love. If you can’t give him that, then give him something to hope for. And if you can’t give him that, just give him something to do.
Frank Towns: James, you’ll never make it.
Liddle: Then I’ll die trying. There are people counting on me.
Frank Towns: Okay, Okay, Okay. Okay. We’ll build it.
deep shit eh? i agree for the most part. indeed, a man or a woman needs someone to love, but it shouldn’t be one sided. he or she also needs to be loved.
the need to love and to be loved.
Uncategorized | Comment (1)i’m sorry, what did ya say?
The word SORRY is indeed a powerful word. so powerful. songs like sorry
seems to be the hardest word (blue feat. elton john) and hard to say
i’m sorry (azyet) perfectly illustrate that we, finds it hard to say those
3 magical words, "i am sorry". and why is that? probably ego? i guess
so. our human nature that sometimes (maybe most of the times), we don’t wanna
admit our own mistakes. we perceive that by saying sorry, it’s a sign of
weaknesses. we would be like "why should i’m the one who give in, if
he/she who’s the one who screwed up."
okay, i learned elementary logic (a philosophy class) way back in 2000, but i
still remember the most common form of a conjunction in logic and mathematics.
if p, then q. p is called the hypothesis (or premise) and q is called the
conclusion.
premise: p —> q
premise: p
conclusion: q
for example:
premise: he passes the interview
conclusion: he will get the job
if he passes the interview, then he will get the job.
i’ve been thinking about this theory when i went for lunch just now. so i wanna
apply this theory with what i’m talking about. however, this example ONLY apply
for our relationship with another human being (hablu minan nas), not our
relationship with god (hablu minAllah).
1) premise: nobody’s perfect. everyone makes mistakes.
supporting quotations:
i) to err is human; to repent, divine; to persist, devilish. (benjamin
franklin)
ii) the greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one. (elbert
hubbard)
2) conclusion: we should forgive another human being for their mistakes.
supporting quotations:
i) firman Allah:
3:133 Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden
whose width is that (of the whole) of the heavens and of the earth, prepared
for the righteous,-
3:134 Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity, or in adversity; who
restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those
who do good;-
Sura 3 - Ayat 133
& 134
Al-Imran (The Family of Imran)
in malay:
‘Dan bersegeralah kamu kepada keampunan daripada Tuhanmu dan kepada syurga yang
disediakan untuk orang-orang yang bertaqwa. (Iaitu) orang-orang yang
menafkahkan (hartanya), baik di waktu lapang atau sempit, dan orang yang
menahan marahnya dan memaafkan (kesalahan) orang. Allah
menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat kebajikan.’ (Ali-Imran: 133-134)
STATEMENT: if nobody’s prefect, we should forgive them for their
mistakes.
what i’m trying to say is, if the statement "if nobody’s prefect, we
should forgive them for their mistakes" is correct, don’t you think the
word "sorry" is a little bit redundant here? should we
remove it from our human dictionary? stop using it at all? why should we say
we’re sorry, if the person should have forgive/accept/understand us for our
mistakes, and vice versa. u guys remember the popular p. ramlee & saloma’s
duet, sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, "sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit,
apa pula suami isteri"? and i don’t remember who said this, "sedangkan
nabi ampunkan ummat, inikan pula…"
but it’s easy for me to say. that’s not gonna happen right? we can’t remove the
word sorry from our lives. someone told me not so long ago, that the two most
important sentences you should use in a relationship are "i love you"
and "i am sorry". so what’s the actual purpose of the word sorry?
simply a formality? u just say the word to get away? how do we know if he/she
is being sincere or not? and that’s the point i’m trying to make. IT DOESN’T
MATTER. we should forgive them anyway. we are living in a world where our own
species are capable of doing unbelievable things that might hurt our feelings.
but how much is too much? can we forgive them if their act is too violent,
horrendous, unacceptable and beyond out imagination? when it comes to it, and
your feelings are deeply involved, it’s tough. real tough. personally, i know
if someone did something really really really bad to me, it would difficult to
forgive him/her.
other than that, when dealing with small issues, let’s not be too carried away.
if a friend did something bad to you, forgive him/her. how bad can it be?
REALLY bad, you say. you could have done something bad to them too, but we, the
"innocent" people will always say, "why do people always hurt my
feelings? they never seem to care." and what do we think when it’s our
turn to make mistakes? NOTHING. do unto to others as you would have them do
unto you, right? let’s make love (rrrr…), not war. wahahaha again, easy for
me to say…
sorry (okay, i’m not being sincere), this entry is kinda long.
hehe…okay i’m out. PEACE.
Seriously Not Funny
Have you heard about the new Astro’s talent search show, Alkisah Raja Lawak ASTRO? Hosted by Sharifah Shahirah, the judges are A.R. Badul (Head Consultant), Jalil Hamid and Datuk Jamali Shadat. Sabri Yunos is one of the judges as well, I heard. The show’s aired every Saturday night on Astro Ria (Channel 4).
So you haven’t? Hehe okay you don’t miss a thing.
I’ve been wanting to watch the show since it first started on Astro Ria, wondering how funny the contestants gonna be, or won’t be. I even put reminders on my cellphone to watch the show, but still I always have something else to do on Saturday nights (English Premier League games obviously). Anyways, luck must be on my side when I got to watch a rerun last night (maybe it’s not luck).
Well.
The show sucks. BIG TIME.
First, the whole idea to find our very own Raja Lawak through a talent search show might be considered creative and "fresh" to a certain degree, but how could we give such title to a person when the contestants ability (if you may), are judged by only 3-4 veteran judges? Namely A.R. Badul, Jalil Hamid, Sabri Yunos and Datuk Jamali Shadat. 30 potential comedians/groups will be selected. After that stage, who knows how are they gonna do the elimation. SMS? I don’t know how old are the other judges, but the Head Consultant, A.R. Badul (or real Armaya Aman Ramli) is 57 years old (born 2 November 1949). The other judges are at least 40 years old, with the oldest should be Datuk Jamali Shadat.
In Malaysia, and I’m sure it applies to every other country as well, we have different ideas of what constitutes FUNNY and NOT FUNNY.
Some consider Senario to be funny. I don’t.
What about Gitu-Gitu Apek? Pi Mai Pi Mai Tang Tu? Jangan Ketawa? 2 + 1? Awie Records? Eh wait the last one is a scary series, not comedy.
Some Americans think South Park and Family Guy are on the extreme side, and not funny at all. I think both series are brilliant hehe.
Chris Rock, Jerry Seinfeld or Ali G? When Americans declared Chris Rock as the funniest man in America a few years ago, can we argue that? In my opinion, such title is definitely acceptable for Chris Rock. What about the funniest people in our country? P. Ramlee, Aziz Sattar, S. Shamsuddin, Saiful Apek, A.R. Badul, Afdlin Shauki, Maideen, Pi’e, Jalil Hamid, Wahid Senario, Accapan, OS, Hamid Gurkha, Datuk Jamali Shadat, Sabri Yunos, Lan Pet Pet, Shamsul Ghau Ghau, Mazlan, Azlee or Rashid Sidek (you should watch Cinta 200 Ela)? For young kids nowadays, perhaps they could relate more to Saiful Apek’s jokes than P. Ramlee’s. As for me, I can’t stand Senario’s jokes (at all), but I see many pakcik-pakcik & makcik-makcik honestly think their jokes are funny like hell. And there’s nothing wrong with that, of course. We all have different standards and expectations in what constitutes funny, perhaps depending on our different upbringing, different background, different culture, different thinking, etc.
Back to the topic, how could Astro lined up veteran judges (A.R. Badul, Jalil Hamid, Datuk Jamali Shadat. Sabri Yunos) to award a title of "Raja Lawak", based on their sole judgement and standards? Should a younger person be in the line up as well? What about Saiful Apek? And someone even younger than him (if we have such person)? The title gonna be given to a person, whose ability to joke, is determined by some veteran comedians who have different approach and thoughts on what makes people laugh. That’s not fair, don’t you think? Yeah yeah I know we shouldn’t be over analyzing, the most important point is comedians make people laugh. Yea of course the judges make people laugh, sometimes, but only apply to a certain group of people only. I don’t get it when Datuk Jamali Shadat makes "funny" kids voices over and over again. What’s up with that? How long is he gonna keep doing that? Did you guys watch Hilmi Gimik’s so-called performance? Do we want him to be our Raja Lawak?
My bro Dik Man is by far the funniest guy I’ve met, in my book. He’s the actual Raja Lawak in my heart. And he’s not even trying to be funny, my friend. Pure genius.
Uncategorized | Comments (4)Love Your Job, but Never Fall in Love with Your Company
An interesting article to read:
Love Your Job, but never fall in love with your company. An interesting speech delivered by a CEO of a premier IT company in India during an employee session with another IT company in India. He is incidentally, one of the top 50 influential people in Asia according the latest Asiaweek publication. He’s also the new IT advisor to the Thai Prime Minister.
Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy’s Speech during Mentor Session:
LOVE YOUR JOB, BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN COMPANY STOPS LOVING YOU - Narayana Murthy
I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I don’t know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long.Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace. Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers can do to change this for everyone’s benefit. Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors. My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others.
I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday. Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who aren’t working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another. As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office. First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday. Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:
1) Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2) Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3) Go home.
4) Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5) Eat well and sleep well.
This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2.
Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires ‘personal change’. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them. In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss something. Once our visitors’ left, he would go to sleep. By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.
Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they don’t want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life!! Things happen 24 hours a day. Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you’re asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.
Hence "LOVE YOUR JOB BUT NEVER FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR COMPANY".
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